Just last Sunday, we had a great brainstorming workshop about finding your awesome message. Everyone was happy to have participated in the workshop, but several people told me that either the night before or the morning of the workshop, they wanted to turn their original Yes into a No. They could confess this at the time because each one of them was very glad they came – in other words, happy to have turned the tempting No back to a Yes.
Linda Hargrove wrote and shared this with us at the end of the day: "I really didn’t want to come here today, I felt sort of angry about having agreed to it, and a whole day at that. Argh. but now i love it, and love being around people with so much passion and in sakada’s house and having my voice heard...." Lots of heads were nodding in agreement with her.
I can definitely relate to this push and pull dance between Yes and No, but in a "Year of Yes," how do you deal with the temptress of No? I am talking about the No that wants to hold you back and keep you in your assigned role and old stories. The No that stops you from truly stepping up and into your visionary-ness. The No that keeps your dreams of writing your book on hold for "later." The No that keeps your prosperity at bay and your business success from truly taking off. Yeah... that No.
Well, first and foremost, realize there is always a choice and it is yours to make. It is easy to give too much power to what is happening around you or what others think or believe about your life and choices. I have to just say straight out – grow up and make your own choices, and make choices that serve you. Ironically, only then will you be able to truly serve others.
I do want to acknowledge that not all No's are bad, so it is important not to automatically think of a No as a "criminal" there to keep you from your visionary-ness and success. You do need to access the No voice and see what fears it is connected to. Remember, the No that says the waves are too high and stormy for your swimming ability might be the lifeguard looking out for you! So don't put all No's into the same basket!
When I come to a Yes or No fork in the road, I simply try to listen deeply to my intuition and instincts, be open to all the possible truths, and make my choice with courage.
This does not mean I make the "right decision" all the time... but it does mean that I don't spend my life waiting at those forks in the road. Sometimes I even go down a road (Yes), and at a point realize it is not my road. I then turn around and go back (No) to the original fork and take the other road (Yes). The important part to this scenario is not to beat yourself up for the first choice – just revise your choice. It is all good.
Of course, the final fork-in-the-road story is that you choose a path (Yes) and despite all the temptations to retreat (No), you keep going down that road and make it yours (Oh Yes!). Don't you love road trips!
Linda Hargrove wrote and shared this with us at the end of the day: "I really didn’t want to come here today, I felt sort of angry about having agreed to it, and a whole day at that. Argh. but now i love it, and love being around people with so much passion and in sakada’s house and having my voice heard...." Lots of heads were nodding in agreement with her.
I can definitely relate to this push and pull dance between Yes and No, but in a "Year of Yes," how do you deal with the temptress of No? I am talking about the No that wants to hold you back and keep you in your assigned role and old stories. The No that stops you from truly stepping up and into your visionary-ness. The No that keeps your dreams of writing your book on hold for "later." The No that keeps your prosperity at bay and your business success from truly taking off. Yeah... that No.
Well, first and foremost, realize there is always a choice and it is yours to make. It is easy to give too much power to what is happening around you or what others think or believe about your life and choices. I have to just say straight out – grow up and make your own choices, and make choices that serve you. Ironically, only then will you be able to truly serve others.
I do want to acknowledge that not all No's are bad, so it is important not to automatically think of a No as a "criminal" there to keep you from your visionary-ness and success. You do need to access the No voice and see what fears it is connected to. Remember, the No that says the waves are too high and stormy for your swimming ability might be the lifeguard looking out for you! So don't put all No's into the same basket!
When I come to a Yes or No fork in the road, I simply try to listen deeply to my intuition and instincts, be open to all the possible truths, and make my choice with courage.
This does not mean I make the "right decision" all the time... but it does mean that I don't spend my life waiting at those forks in the road. Sometimes I even go down a road (Yes), and at a point realize it is not my road. I then turn around and go back (No) to the original fork and take the other road (Yes). The important part to this scenario is not to beat yourself up for the first choice – just revise your choice. It is all good.
Of course, the final fork-in-the-road story is that you choose a path (Yes) and despite all the temptations to retreat (No), you keep going down that road and make it yours (Oh Yes!). Don't you love road trips!
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